Let’s try to change the way we look at “help”

or support.

Like let’s get down to the real,

Is the person who’s just giving you the words you want to hear,

or the justification your looking for,

or just the space to vent without discussing solutions,

Really there to help you?

because the way I look at it is,

most people have it backwards,

they look at the people who just enable, pacify, and justify and allow you to give in to the excuses,

as people who care and want best of you the most.

When in reality, the people who hold you to a standard, call you out on your bullshit, and let it be known when you’re not acting out into your full potential,

are the ones who REALLY care

Look at it like this,

Other people wouldn’t hold you to the standard, that you set for yourself,

if they didn’t think you were capable of it!

We see a fat lazy friend say they’re going to have a 6 pack by summer,

and after the first two days of shitty eating, and skipping the gym,

do you even consider wasting your breath to remind them of what they said they’d do?

The answer is NO..

But watch somebody in similar circumstances, who declares the same goals,

And as you watch them put in the work, eat right, do the cardio, make the changes..

But then slip, and have a hard time getting back up,

Aren’t you driven to remind them,

HEY, look at all the work you’ve put in! Look what you’ve started, keep going!

it’s because you see the potential in the actual fulfillment of the goal,

where as, if somebody didn’t see that potential in you,

THEY WOULDN’T GIVE A SHIT..

Take it as a good sign, when others call you out, when others are hard on you, when others draw the line for you..

Because it probably means they see you doing work..

Now,

the two groups have one thing in common, they love you.

you are loved

you are cared for

it realize, one group is out for your progression and fulfillment of your potential,

and the other group is too soft, or doesn’t have the communication skills, to really tell you what you need to hear.

This comes with a caveat,

ONLY take those words, from people you would trade lives with.

If they fit into either group, but you wouldn’t trade lives, why would it matter what the fuck they say,

no matter if it’s positive and enabling,

or painful but truth filled!

The bottom line is you are loved,

People care about you,

People will hold you to standards you set for yourself,

People will only say something, when they know you’re capable but not acting like it..

The real deep truth is, you don’t need help, you don’t need words of encouragement,

You know this, it will either get you fired up or give you the perspective that you’re simply not acting in your own potential..

You’re worth more, you’re capable of more, but you don’t need someone to tell you that, you already know it..

START ACTING LIKE IT..