Are You Approval Seeking?

This is a tough one, so buckle in..

It might be hard for you to tell,

you will have to let down the ego

drop your cover and take this one to the chin.

If you have this untouched pain going on inside that’s linked to -

Love

Affection

Attention

Support

and by that, I mean that you deep down inside, have a inner child crying for any of these..

Now off the rip, I know the response is

“No I get enough love.. I don’t need attention.. I don’t need support, I get it on my own..”

You’re the ones who need to hear this the MOST..

So listen closely,

That unresolved trauma, will have you running anywhere and everywhere looking to fill that hole inside..

It shows up like this,

You have this thing you feel,

and you go down one path thinking that it’s going to solve that thing..

It does for a bit, but the thing is till there..

You conclude you’re over it, or that it’s just not satisfying you in any way so you jump to another thing..

Not knowing from the outside looking in, you just look like you’re jumping from venture to venture, idea to idea, passion to passion..

Lowering your credibility with yourself and others.

You may think to yourself, “Man I can never follow through or finish something..”

or “I’m searching for my passion”

When really,

You’re simply dancing around the thing you really need to address.. And you may not know you need to.

Awareness of it is the beginning,

so focus on that first.

Maybe your parents were scarce when it came to showing affection,

maybe it was a heart break,

maybe it was your sibling always taking and never giving as children..

Dig deep, and you’ll possibly see,

The things you were missing and yearning for as a child, are the same things you search for as an adult, they just may not be showing up the same way.

If you look around you’ll see some walk around with this attitude of always looking to fit in,

or be friends with everyone,

or belong..

And you wonder why they make these moves and act this way,

and if you were to unveil the covers,

you’d see, deep inside

They just want approval,

the pay on the back,

the “atta boy” or “atta girl”,

the “I’m proud of you”,

the apology

that they never got..

And they’ll go searching for it everywhere..

At work,

At the new club they just joined,

At the gym,

With friends,

With relatives & loved ones..

Never realizing that the answer to fill that void is to,

Just go out and do the self work.

You won’t need to blabber about that deal that had nothing to do with you,

Throw in the push-ups you did,

Or show everyone on social your new “toy”,

if you just did the work and became the person you’re trying to be.

What if you became proud of yourself?

What if you could forgive yourself?

What if you could give the apology instead of waiting to get it?

What if you have yourself the approval to stop listening to others, stop waiting for approval or recognition or credit, and just did the work on yourself..

For yourself..