You’re going to want to control the narrative but it will be irrelevant 

If others believe that false narrative and can’t see where there’s truth vs. somebody having a personal agenda against you,

They don’t have the current capability to see through it,

and that’s not your problem 

The ones who are smart enough will come to see and recognize 

And even if everyone has a false narrative of you,

From somebody else

It will be irrelevant to your goals

and trust me I’m the emotional type 

I want everyone to know my side of the story 

And a lot of times that won’t happen.

You need to separate

what is factual

and

what is personal

What is a personal attack vs a factual criticism,

most of the time when it’s factual it can be spoken and worked out

You can spot personal when they won’t bring it up to you 

And a personal problem to them, is terribly more harmful to themselves than it could ever be to you