As I’ve gotten older..

*Eeesh, just the thought of saying I’m turning 27 this year, sounds.. Damn like I’m closer to 30 than being close to just turning 21😅”

I’ve found myself in the past reaching for, and twisting myself to have the image of being “Cool”

And it occurred to me today, that that definition has definitely taken a new form.

Lets be honest, we all never really let go of that pull to want to be cool lol.

But like I said, just how I define being happy with myself, and being content with the way I show up in the world, tallies up so different than before.

Cool to me before was

• Dressing cool

• Standing out

• the way you walk

• the way you talk

• cool hair

• your aesthetic

And I’ve realized like yes, those things will always define cool in their own ways,

some of them I do keep with me but others have just faded away with no remorse..

Nowadays I kind of look at cool as these questions

• how do you make people feel?

• how do you show up for others?

• how do you lead?

• how do you set up your life to give?

• how do you take care of your body?

• how fast do you move?

• how do you respond to failure?

• how little bullshit do you tolerate?

• how quickly do you come to decisions?

• how efficiently can you lead somebody?

Everyone talks about the intangibles, and more times than not, the qualities that move the needle forward are the tangibles.

Looking around at others, and the way I look inward at myself,

These are the tangible assets, qualities, and characteristics, that can be measured and tracked daily.

To me,

That’s cool..