On the topic of having hard conversations,

There comes times when you and / or people around you,

declare you’re going to start something..

Going to start a change..

Start a new habit..

Stopping a old reaction..

Starting a new venture..

Starting a new diet..

Starting a new journey..

And through time,

because it is new,

the adaptation begins through tough situations..

We get tested..

And the decision to go back to our old ways, feel easier than choosing this new way..

And when you see yourself, or that friend,

begin to lean to the old ways,

it is up to you to hold them accountable..

Also, you need to feel the need to hold yourself accountable, and if you need a trusted friend, to call you out on your shit..

USE THEM..

And let me tell you this, if your friends don’t call you out on your shit or make you logically question yourself,

YOU DON’T HAVE FRIENDS..

Now back to the outward perspective,

For holding those around you accountable,

to what they said they would do,

you’re going to get

“You’re mean”

”Why do you have to be like that”

”Come on, I’m human”

”Just let it go”

and they’ll begin to wave a “Nice person” flag above your head,

and try to hold nobility above the situation..

Your answer to this is this,

Who’s really being “nice” ?

Is nice letting you erode your self confidence,

by letting you defy your own words?

Is nice letting you make mistakes that you took notice of and promised to not go back on?

Is nice letting you not do what you said you were going to do?

The point, is that holding those around you accountable- to who? - to themselves, is the bottom line..

Take people for their word, and hold them to it..

So it’s not holding everybody around you to your standard,

it’s not to somebody else’s standards,

its their own standards..

And when they slip, be there for them to get them back up to pace..

Be that friend..

Because what’s the opposite?

Whats acceptable in our society nowadays?

To be the friend that lets them slide..

Being the friend that joins in to help them feel better..

Being the friend that joins in just because they’re slipping up..

Wether it’s diet, finances, faith, relationships, time management..

It all matters..

Which in turn,

gets everybody around you,

including you,

to slide, and watch you guys sit there kicking yourself in the ass for not holding the line when you had the chance..

So who’s being “nice” again?

Nice now?

or

Nice later?

You choose..

and lastly, being that person in all of your loved ones lives,

will not work

unless,

your friends see you holding yourself up to the standards that you set in place for yourself..