REAL Self Love

Now more than ever is it important to have the REAL conversation around

“ Self Love “

Look into things, and you’ll see that

depression,

stress,

anxiety,

is at an all time high.

but don’t be so down on this, there’s an equal amount of people crushing their goals,

taking strides towards their ideal future,

and busting down the doors of opportunity and building their own shit.

Here’s the thing,

I had a conversation with a buddy of mine,

and with heaviness in his voice,

he brought on his thoughts of the past 6 months.

And it was a slew of depression, confusion, worry, fear, and stress.

And now, this person has ran into a lot,

and so have thousands of others.

But that’s not the point of this all,

it was how we went on to say

“Today was another one of those days, I woke up later than I wanted.. I looked in the mirror and realized I’ve gained some weight.. and I have no excuse because I have access to a gym.. but I’m learning to say it’s okay, and say I’m okay, and accept myself,

and I’m learning to love myself.. “

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Now..

I understand, yes, loving yourself is an essential part to starting your progress..

BUT..

I think where people mix this up, is they believe the end step, is to love yourself,

when I believe that “ loving yourself “, is to be used as the first step.

Instead of taking inventory of where you’re at, and all you do, and shrugging your shoulders, and say where you are is where you want to be, when it’s obviously not, and say “I love myself”…

You should be able to say, hey, I am where I am through a string of my own decisions, And I’ve made it as far as I have, I want better and will now choose to do the work required to get to where I truly want to be, and therefore for recognizing it, and deciding to work on myself, I will PROVE to myself, I love myself.

That’s the difference.

now let’s get to the practicality of this all,

Doing hard shit, especially shit you know you need to do, is the REAL self love.

Taking the sacrifice of your now, to have the result you want for your future.

I mentioned this quote from Alexis Carrel in a previous post, that reads

Man cannot remake himself, without suffering. For he is both

The Sculptor..

&

The Marble..

If you don’t know me, I was very much into fitness around 2013,

and between them and the past year got up to around 250lbs..

And I’ve since then worked myself back down 40 pounds, fluctuating of course, and nowhere near where I want to be, but

I know what it’s like to be at 10, go back down to 1 and work to get back to 10..

I can talk more on this later,

but the point is this,

To what extent would I serve myself to say

“Hey, where you’re at is good.. it’s not that bad, and you deserve all the praise and love.. you’re great, you’re amazing, right where you are..”

NONE. ZERO.

I had to be fed up, and say hey dude, you wanna be confident, then drag your ass through the mud, do hard shit that’s required, and through suffering, earn your self love.

And I’m talking more than body weight, if you’re like me, it was a culmination of putting off important things, to “enjoy” my time right now.

I know that can relate to all of you..

When do you think I felt better about myself?

When it comes to now, our current situation,

When there’s every reason I’m the world, to blame the world for the reason you’re not where you want to be,

When the world around you is crumbling and it’s earlier to fold,

Its more important NOW, to hold yourself accountable.

Right now, it’s acceptable to slide backwards,

and like I said in the beginning, there’s a number of people who will forever say “2020 fucked me up and my life went this way because of this or that..”

and there’s a number of people who will forever say “2020 made me, that was the greatest year of my life”

The days are counting down, for your time to catch up to those people, and to come out the other side of this BETTER.

And I can assure you, I have a feeling you’re going to “love yourself” MORE,

for taking this time, to progress,

than unintentionally slide backwards, just like everyone else out there.

CHOOSE to SPRINT, while the world takes a seat,

anf that’s REAL Self Love.