How to TRULY get what you want out of others

You can bring a horse to water but you can’t make it drink 

My buddy was having a relationship issue asking “how can I get her back”

I replied there’s no magical statement you’re going to say, or some stance you take that will make her switch and go “holy crap I’m going to get back with you!” 

And he pleaded I just want her back 

Now this is what I would say to you girls as well (most suiting actually) 

I said 

Form yourself a great happy life, TRULY, and it will attract her and many others to want to take part in and have a share of your life 

So you can’t make a horse drink by showing it the water, but you can show time and time again that you are the BEST source of water 

Other people have their own reasons,

Nobody owes you shit,

Theyre literally their own people..

If you love them, you’d want what’s best for them, and not just what works out best for you.

You can influence action in others,

you cannot control them.

I can demand you up and down all day to go to the gym..

And I might get you to go for a day..

And you might continue to go, driven by motivation,

But eventually you’ll stop,

Because it’s not your identity(huge thing, we can go into “identity” later)

But if I want you to get to the gym, really fucking badly,

I can really only be a devoted gym goer,

show you the benefits and the great results,

to which you’ll see and want for yourself.

Thus, longevity and going to the gym, an actual part of you, as opposed to me just shouting at you to go to the gym.

Translate that over,

Do you live and create a happy, amazing, collective, inclusive environment that others would want to be part of? 
That others look at and say, “DAMN I’d wanna do that! “